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Instructions:
In each of the sections below, there are lessons, exercises, pdf handouts, pdf worksheets, and video content. Depending on how you learn best, you may decide which material to use first, or use at all. It is best to complete each section in order from top to bottom, and in the following order within each section:
- watch the video
- read the lesson
- complete the exercise
- use the pdf handout (view, download, print)
- use the pdf worksheet (view, download, print, fill out)
Introduction & Overview Videos
| DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness #1: Communication Styles [YouTube Video] |
| Happiness Isn’t Brain Surgery Interpersonal Effectiveness [YouTube Video] Dr. Dawn Elise Snipes, PhD |
Goals and Factors That Interfere
| Interpersonal Effectiveness – Goals and Challenges [YouTube Video] Dr. Jennifer May, PhD |
| Goals of Interpersonal Effectiveness Skills Training |
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| [Course Lesson: Goals] [Exercise: Pros and Cons] |
| [Handout 1: Goals of Interpersonal Effectiveness] [Worksheet 1: Pros and Cons of using Interpersonal Effectiveness Skills] |
| Factors in the way of Interpersonal Effectiveness Skills Training |
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| [Course Lesson: Factors in the way] |
| [Handout 2: Factors in the way of Interpersonal Effectiveness] |
| Myths in the way of Interpersonal Effectiveness Skills Training |
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| [Course Lesson: Myths in the Way] [Exercise: Challenging Myths] |
| [Handout 2A: Factors in the way of Interpersonal Effectiveness] [Worksheet 2: Challenging Myths in the Way of Interpersonal Effectiveness] |
Obtaining Objectives Skillfully
| Interpersonal Effectiveness – DEAR MAN (getting what you want) [YouTube Video] Dr. Jennifer May, PhD |
| Interpersonal Effectiveness – Assertive Asking Tips [YouTube Video] Dr. Jennifer May, PhD |
| Interpersonal Effectiveness #2: Skills of Assertiveness, Part 1 [YouTube Video] Dialectical Behavior Therapy |
| Interpersonal Effectiveness #3: Skills of Assertiveness, Part 2 [YouTube Video] Dialectical Behavior Therapy |
| Interpersonal Effectiveness #4: Assertiveness Scripts and Interpersonal Rights [YouTube Video] Dialectical Behavior Therapy |
| Happiness Isn’t Brain Surgery: Interpersonal Effectiveness- Boundaries and Needs [YouTube Video] Dr. Dawn Elise Snipes, PhD |
| Overview: Obtaining Objectives Skillfully |
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| [Course Lesson] |
| [Handout 3] |
| Clarifying Goals in Interpersonal Situations |
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| [Course Lesson] [Exercise] |
| [Handout 4] [Worksheet 3] |
| Guidelines for Objectives Effectiveness: Getting What You Want (DEAR MAN) |
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| [Course Lesson] [Exercise] |
| [Handout 5] [Worksheet 4] |
| Applying DEAR MAN Skills to a Difficult Current Interaction |
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| [Course Lesson] [Exercise] |
| [Handout 5A] [Worksheet 5] |
| Guidelines for Relationship Effectiveness: Keeping the Relationship (GIVE) |
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| [Course Lesson] [Exercise] |
| [Handout 6] |
| Expanding the V in GIVE: Levels of Validation |
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| [Course Lesson] [Exercise] |
| [Handout 6A] |
| Guidelines for Self-Respect Effectiveness: Keeping Respect for Yourself (FAST) |
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| [Course Lesson] [Exercise] |
| [Handout 7] |
| Evaluating Options for Whether or How Intensely to Ask for Something or Say No |
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| [Course Lesson] [Exercise] |
| [Handout 8] [Worksheet 6] |
| Troubleshooting: When What You Are Doing Isn’t Working |
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| [Course Lesson] [Exercise] |
| [Handout 9] [Worksheet 7] |
Building Relationships and Ending Destructive Ones
| Interpersonal Effectiveness – GIVE (Keeping Good Relationships) [YouTube Video] Dr. Jennifer May, PhD |
| Interpersonal Effectiveness #5: Listening and Validation [YouTube Video] Dialectical Behavior Therapy |
| Interpersonal Effectiveness – FAST (keeping self-respect) [YouTube Video] Dr. Jennifer May, PhD |
| Interpersonal Effectiveness – Saying “No” [YouTube Video] Dr. Jennifer May, PhD |
| Interpersonal Effectiveness – Building and Ending Relationships [YouTube Video] Dr. Jennifer May, PhD |
Walking the Middle Path
Interpersonal Effectiveness Extras
| My “Favorite Person” |
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| [YouTube Video] |
| Dr. Jennifer May, PhD |
| DBT Expanded Edition – How to VALIDATE People |
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| [YouTube Video] |
| Dr. Jennifer May, PhD |
| DBT Expanded Edition – Setting a BOUNDARY |
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| [YouTube Video] |
| Dr. Jennifer May, PhD |
Interpersonal Effectiveness Skills (Not in DBT)
| Interpersonal Effectiveness Extras: I-It vs. I-Thou Relationships |
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| [YouTube Video] |
| Dr. Jennifer May, PhD |
| Interpersonal Effectiveness Extras – Building Healthy Relationships With CARE |
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| [YouTube Video] |
| Dr. Jennifer May, PhD |
| Reassurance Seeking |
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| [YouTube Video] |
| Dr. Jennifer May, PhD |
| The 5 As of Healthy Relationships |
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| [YouTube Video] |
| Dr. Jennifer May, PhD |
| The Art of Receiving Feedback |
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| [YouTube Video] |
| Dr. Jennifer May, PhD |